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‘Getting to Know Yourself, 4 Steps to Productive Self Reflection,’ Thrive Global

This period of self-isolation has for many, been a real time of imposed self-reflection. For some it was a long overdue pause from life, for some it was just going deeper in to what you may already do. It is important to ‘know yourself’ ­– your patterns, beliefs, thoughts and habits, if you want to create change.

Stop, reflect and ask yourself questions. Am I happy? Am I doing what I want to be doing? Am I fulfilling my dreams? Am I living each day on purpose? Am I consciously living my life?

To self-reflect effectively we need to be hearing that background noise that we all have. We want to know what it is saying. Are you listening? Is it positive? Is it negative? Is it your own voice? Your parents? Siblings? Old teachers? Bullies from school? Friends or mentors? What are you filling your mind with? These questions are vital but can be scary if you have never asked them before.

You cannot change what you are not aware of.

Our lives, our minds, are a culmination of all the things we have ever heard and thought. Our habits are often passed down from our parents, from their parents. But do those habits still serve a purpose? Your purpose. Or are you on auto-pilot? Do you always set the table a certain way? Always at 6pm because your mother did? Do you actually want it set that way? Do you want to eat at 6pm? Do you drive with one hand on the wheel because your father always did? Do you secretly wish you could sing but don’t because a singing teacher twenty years ago at school told you you have a horrible voice? It doesn’t matter what the topic is, it matters that you bring self-awareness in to your life and start asking questions.

Listen to the noise in your head, even those voices you hid away somewhere far far out the back. Hear what they are saying so you can consciously choose what you want to do from now on. Shoving them back down or ignoring them only works for so long before they simply pop back up. Habits, behaviours, even pain, doesn’t just go away. We need to recognise it, find its source, work through it, make conscious decisions in our best interest and then act on them.

You are whatever you want to be. You have control; control over thoughts, emotions, behaviours, habits, ideas and creations. You can do anything with good self-awareness, good questions, some patience and self-belief.

Who are you when you strip away the voices of society, culture, family, friends and old nemesis?

4 Steps to Productive Self-Reflection:

1. Every time you do something, ask yourself – am choosing this? Is this what want to do? Why do I do this?

2. Every time you think something, ask yourself – is this positive or negative? Is it what think or is it someone elses words/a memory? Does it make me feel good or bad? Does it serve a purpose?

3. Try and listen to your gut feeling, that instinctive knowing when something feels right or wrong. Act on it.

4. Journal – if you had a good day, write about it to better understand what makes you feel good. If you had a bad day, write about to better understand what makes you feel bad. Look for habits and repetition. Try and get to the bottom things of them to find their roots and themes.

 

“You are braver than you believe,

and stronger than you seem,

and smarter than you think.”

Christopher Robin

in Winnie the Pooh

by A.A. Milne.

 

Source: Getting to Know Yourself, 4 Steps to Productive Self Reflection,’ / Thrive Global

 

Improving Communications & Connections in Relationships – Podcast interview on Wellthy Living, Australia.

‘Improving Communications & Connections in Relationships’

 

 

Listen to my latest episode where I chat with Author and Therapist Romi Grossberg about improving communication and connection in relationships.

Lisa Entwistle, host

 

Lisa Entwisle – Podcast host and founder of Wellthy Living: “My mantra is “connection is medicine and I hope the content of these episodes can inform and inspire you to live a meaningful, connected and wellthy life.”

Holistic Counselling

So what exactly IS Holistic Counselling. What does it mean to say you are a holistic counsellor or that you want to go and see one?

Holistic Counselling looks at all of you. It recognises that people are not one-dimensional and that all the different parts that make up a person need to be factored in, to be able to fully understand the person. Holistic Counselling looks at mind, body and spirit.

Here is a 1.26 second video I made  explaining Holistic Counselling.

When I say I am a holistic counsellor, I am saying that I will take in to account your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual thoughts, ideas, fears and concerns. I will acknowledge that upbringing, religion, society and culture can play a role and I will listen without judgment and help clear past blocks and help you to step forward with ease, flow and confidence.

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I am passionate about sharing my skills to help you reach your full potential.

I believe that everyone should seek counselling at some point in their lives. We all go to the dentist or car mechanic every year but when do we give ourselves the gift of an emotional check in?



My sessions are forward thinking to help you achieve your goals.

W e can work together on how to: quiet your mind, trust yourself, recognise your goals and strengths, communicate effectively with partners, children, parents and friends, break out of old patterns or negative thought behaviours, let go of old stories, understand and better cope with mental health, make decisions that are right for you, gain clarity, focus, calm and more.

My promise to you is that you will learn practical and effective skills, tools and techniques to bring in to your daily life immediately.

Holistic Counselling includes the ‘all of you’, recognising that:

  1. We are multi-faceted human beings and our emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health need to be in-line for us to function at our best.
  2. Our upbringing; our family, culture, society, religion and nationality all play a part in how we think, react and behave.

Let’s chat from the comfort of your home.

I offer 60-minute online counselling sessions. You can book one session or a block of three or five to start.

I work with Adults, couples and teenagers (12+).

University Qualifications:

Bachelor of Social Work (2006), Monash University, Australia

Bachelor of Social Science (1997), LaTrobe University, Australia

Other Qualifications:

Dealing with Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks’ Management, Drug & Alcohol Harm Minimisation, Suicide First Aid, International Public Health, Disaster Relief Management

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If you are visiting Thailand you can work with me face-to-face at The Sanctuary Thailand in Koh Phangan or simply stay in touch via my newsletter to see what country I am in.


What People Say



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Tash, Australia

“I was worried my thoughts were crazy or silly but you made me feel normal and like I could cope with life again.”

AnnaUSA

“I was worried my thoughts were crazy or silly but you made me feel normal and like I could cope with life again.”

RobertFrance

“I enjoyed using writing in the session. I have never experienced something like this before. It was really challenging but helped me concentrate, focus and think clearly and importantly – it was fun too.”

NathanAustralia

“I enjoyed using writing in the session. I have never experienced something like this before. It was really challenging but helped me concentrate, focus and think clearly and importantly – it was fun too.”

JaanaUK

“I’ve been going to counselors for my eating disorder for over ten years now and that was the best session I have ever had. That was the first time I wasn’t made to feel stupid and where I felt I was talking to someone who was my equal but with loads to teach and share with me. I now feel I have a new set of tools and tricks I can try that will be with me always. I feel empowered. Thank you.”

PanUK

“You have helped me far more than you could possibly imagine! You helped me integrate all the information, thoughts and feelings. You helped me develop an action plan with tools and writing that I could go home with to help me keep my new-found peace of mind. It really tied everything together for me. You gave me a good bag of gems to take home and play with. Thank you Romi for creating the space to let me be me and for listening without judgment, you made me feel safe and accepted for all that I am. Your insight is deeply appreciated.”

AngelAustralia

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