Posts

Break Free From Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

I was fortunate to have been contacted recently by the lovely Cassandra Michael, a Positive Psychology & Mindset Coach for empaths and highly sensitives. After a Zoom meeting and some emails back and forth she has invited me as a Guest Presenter on her online course. I will be facilitating a workshop on boundaries.

Setting Boundaries.

Empath’s find it particularly difficult to not only set boundaries, but to keep their boundaries. In this workshop learn to understand why we all need boundaries. Learn how to say no without guilt and stress. Boundaries are empowering and keep us safe. Whilst many put a negative connotation on the word, boundaries is not a dirty word.

Cassandra’s online course is Break Free From Unhealthy Relationship Patterns, an 8-week Group Coaching Program starting Oct 5th.

Cassandra says: “You will get all the tools you need to let go of self-sabotaging patterns and start attracting the nurturing relationships you deserve from a place of wholeness, integrity and self-love. Topics like trauma bonding, reprogramming limiting beliefs, reparenting, inner child healing, boundaries, self-love authenticity and more, will be part of the value packed curriculum.”

For more info or to sign up, click here.

Positive Emotional Health & Well-Being, Online 6-part series

This course goes Live in September @ The Sanctuary Wellness, but you can join any time.

The Positive Emotional Health and Well-Being course aims to support you to live a socially, emotionally and mentally healthy life. It covers a range of topics over six videos offering practical and actionable tools and techniques to help you step forward and lead a confident, empowered and balanced life.

1. Free Your Mind

2. Letting go

3. Breaking Free of Negative Thoughts

4. Intuitive Decision-Making: Making choices that are right for you

5. Perfectionism, Success and Failure

6. Combatting Anxiety

Also check out my 6-part online course on Effective Communication.

‘3-Step Process to Calm Anxiety,’ Thrive Global.

Many of us have felt anxiety at different times in our lives to differing degrees. I think we can all agree it doesn’t feel nice at all. For some it can present as a shortness of breath, a rapid heart beat, a knot in the stomach or nausea, a racing mind, or a feeling of loss of reality and perception. However you may feel it, the great news is there is something you can do to help yourself in these moments. Let’s start by understanding anxiety.

Anxiety put really simply is when our mind runs ahead to imagining the worst-case scenario. We often then believe this worst-case scenario is true (because it feels that way) which can lead to further anxiety or a panic attack. Our mind has become disassociated from our body and from reality.

For example, you may need to resolve a conflict with a friend, family member or your boss. Feeling nervous or having a reasonable amount of fear can be normal. Anxiety is when you let your mind race ahead in to the worst-case scenario where you imagine it escalating to an argument that you feel you can’t come back from resulting in loss of trust, loss of friendship, loss of job or worse. This is an anxiety-driven thought that may also cause you to feel unable to even attempt to resolve the conflict at all.

A more current scenario in our new world of COVID19 could be that you have a fear of going out in public that escalates to an anxiety-driven thought. It can be normal to feel fear right now. An anxiety driven-thought may be that you think if you go on public transport and touch the handrail on a train or bus that you will get infected by the virus and either get sick and potentially die yourself or can cause someone else to. If this escalates you may feel unable to leave the house and develop a fear of public spaces or people. In the weeks or months to come as the situation changes, you also may still hold on to your anxiety and find it difficult to re-enter the world.

Anxiety-driven thoughts can be about anything, from COVID19 related issues to love or family relationships, jobs, shopping, driving and anything else. I want to teach you a 3-step process to help combat anxiety and calm down the escalation from a thought or fear to an anxiety-driven thought.

Many people think that Step 1 is taking deep breaths but if you are feeling anxious or having a panic attack, you are not yet ready or often even able to take a deep breath.

STEP 1: GROUNDING.

We want to bring your mind back from being dissociated or disconnected from reality and your surroundings and get grounded. If you’re sitting put your hands on the ground until you can actually feel it. You can also grab your body­ – your arms or your thighs to help you find your body again.

If you are standing you can say, “My feet are on the ground, my feet are on the ground, my feet are on the ground.” Anything that brings you back to your physical body. Whilst you’re doing this grounding, look around the room or the space that you are in. Name three or four things out loud that you can see. Example: “I can see my kettle, my shoes, my book, my phone. I can see my kettle, my shoes, my book, my phone.” If you are naming the things that are physically in front of you, your mind is no longer disconnected, your mind is back with your body because you’re in reality seeing and feeling what is in front of you.

STEP 2: BREATHE.

Now you’re ready for a breath. Now that you’re ‘back’ you can know where your lungs are, where your heart, and where your breath is. Take three to five deep breaths.

STEP 3 – REALITY CHECK

Ask yourself questions. What do I KNOW to be TRUE? What are the FACTS? Facts NOT thoughts. In the example above about wanting to resolve a conflict, what are the facts? Fact: You had a conflict. The conflict is unresolved on your side. The rest are thoughts, fears and anxieties. You do not KNOW how the other person is feeling, what will happen when you meet, whether it will escalate or de-escalate or anything else. Stick to the facts – there was a conflict. That is much less scary than where your anxiety-driven thoughts went.

In example two on our COVID19 related situation, you fear leaving the house. What are the facts? Is it a fact that if you leave the house you will definitely become infected? No. Is it a fact that if you touch a surface in a public space you will definitely become infected? No. Is it a fact that the virus does exist? Yes (depending on your belief system). Does that mean you have it? No. Are there safety precautions you can take? Yes. Again the facts are much less scary than where the anxiety-driven thoughts led you.

Don’t let fears become anxiety-driven thoughts. When we look at the facts, there are usually very, very few facts and the rest are thoughts and fears that lead to anxiety driven thoughts.

For any situation where you feel anxiety rising, whether you are sixteen or sixty, try and remember this 3-Step Process. 1. Grounding. 2. Breathe. 3. Reality Check. This should help calm down your situation so you are able to make decisions that are reasonable for you.

Source: ‘3-Step Process to Calm Anxiety,’/ Thrive Global.

Making Mental Health a Priority During Uncertain Times – Podcast interview on The Big Turtle, U.S.

“A fascinating conversation with Freedom Cole, Dr Patty Hlava and Romi Grossberg on the crucial topic of Mental Health – integrated approaches to healing, how different cultures approach mental health, the use and misuse of medication, and how best to navigate these troubling times with a modicum of sanity.” The Big Turtle Podcast.

A shaky start to the video podcast interview across the UK, U.S. and Asia with a little freeze and a little pause but well worth the watch.

Making Mental Health a Priority During Uncertain Times – Podcast interview on The Big Turtle Podcast, June 2020.

Hosted by: Vikram Zutshi and Lea Horvatic.

Guests: Romi Grossberg, Patty Hlava, Ph.D., and Freedom Cole.

 

‘Getting to Know Yourself, 4 Steps to Productive Self Reflection,’ Thrive Global

This period of self-isolation has for many, been a real time of imposed self-reflection. For some it was a long overdue pause from life, for some it was just going deeper in to what you may already do. It is important to ‘know yourself’ ­– your patterns, beliefs, thoughts and habits, if you want to create change.

Stop, reflect and ask yourself questions. Am I happy? Am I doing what I want to be doing? Am I fulfilling my dreams? Am I living each day on purpose? Am I consciously living my life?

To self-reflect effectively we need to be hearing that background noise that we all have. We want to know what it is saying. Are you listening? Is it positive? Is it negative? Is it your own voice? Your parents? Siblings? Old teachers? Bullies from school? Friends or mentors? What are you filling your mind with? These questions are vital but can be scary if you have never asked them before.

You cannot change what you are not aware of.

Our lives, our minds, are a culmination of all the things we have ever heard and thought. Our habits are often passed down from our parents, from their parents. But do those habits still serve a purpose? Your purpose. Or are you on auto-pilot? Do you always set the table a certain way? Always at 6pm because your mother did? Do you actually want it set that way? Do you want to eat at 6pm? Do you drive with one hand on the wheel because your father always did? Do you secretly wish you could sing but don’t because a singing teacher twenty years ago at school told you you have a horrible voice? It doesn’t matter what the topic is, it matters that you bring self-awareness in to your life and start asking questions.

Listen to the noise in your head, even those voices you hid away somewhere far far out the back. Hear what they are saying so you can consciously choose what you want to do from now on. Shoving them back down or ignoring them only works for so long before they simply pop back up. Habits, behaviours, even pain, doesn’t just go away. We need to recognise it, find its source, work through it, make conscious decisions in our best interest and then act on them.

You are whatever you want to be. You have control; control over thoughts, emotions, behaviours, habits, ideas and creations. You can do anything with good self-awareness, good questions, some patience and self-belief.

Who are you when you strip away the voices of society, culture, family, friends and old nemesis?

4 Steps to Productive Self-Reflection:

1. Every time you do something, ask yourself – am choosing this? Is this what want to do? Why do I do this?

2. Every time you think something, ask yourself – is this positive or negative? Is it what think or is it someone elses words/a memory? Does it make me feel good or bad? Does it serve a purpose?

3. Try and listen to your gut feeling, that instinctive knowing when something feels right or wrong. Act on it.

4. Journal – if you had a good day, write about it to better understand what makes you feel good. If you had a bad day, write about to better understand what makes you feel bad. Look for habits and repetition. Try and get to the bottom things of them to find their roots and themes.

 

“You are braver than you believe,

and stronger than you seem,

and smarter than you think.”

Christopher Robin

in Winnie the Pooh

by A.A. Milne.

 

Source: Getting to Know Yourself, 4 Steps to Productive Self Reflection,’ / Thrive Global

 

Holistic Counselling

So what exactly IS Holistic Counselling. What does it mean to say you are a holistic counsellor or that you want to go and see one?

Holistic Counselling looks at all of you. It recognises that people are not one-dimensional and that all the different parts that make up a person need to be factored in, to be able to fully understand the person. Holistic Counselling looks at mind, body and spirit.

Here is a 1.26 second video I made  explaining Holistic Counselling.

When I say I am a holistic counsellor, I am saying that I will take in to account your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual thoughts, ideas, fears and concerns. I will acknowledge that upbringing, religion, society and culture can play a role and I will listen without judgment and help clear past blocks and help you to step forward with ease, flow and confidence.

Tips for Journalling

Here is a short 4 video series to help you journal. For those who have never journalled, have stopped somewhere along your life journey, or are just curious to hear more.

Journalling – Writing in your diary – Self Writing

There are just as many reasons why people don’t journal, as why people do.  One reason for not journalling I often hear is “I don’t know what to write” or “I don’t know where to begin” so here are my 4 Key Questions in one minute videos that you can ask yourself.

4 Key Questions:

Question Number 1.

Question Number 2.

Question Number 3.

Question Number 4.

Happy Journalling

‘Are You a Perfectionist?’ Huffington Post

If we continue to hold on to the illusion of “perfection,” we can spend a lifetime feeling like we have failed. So, why are we all striving to reach something that’s not real?

Let’s understand it better.

2016-03-14-1457932816-295618-large3.jpg

Being a perfectionist can often mean you get stuck or don’t complete tasks because you never feel they are up to your own set of standards. A writer would never press send or publish, a designer would never have their new outfits in a shop, a manager returning to the drawing board again and again rather than giving the official go ahead.

Does this sound like you? Are you a perfectionist?

Did you know there is even a term for this fear? For those that have a genuine fear of imperfection and not being good enough? It is called atelophobia, and it is an anxiety disorder.

As a therapist and Writing from The Source workshop facilitator, “perfectionism” is the number one obstacle brought up as getting in the way of completing tasks (procrastination and self doubt are the next two).

People would rather not complete (or even start) new projects than have to deal with failure. Perfectionism unintentionally gets translated in to fear. Rather than holding this as an excuse — it’s a good one I know, isn’t it better to deal with it instead?

So how do we deal with perfectionism? Well the trick is knowing what it means. I pose the question to you — what is perfection? What is perfect? If we are all striving toward it, shouldn’t we know what it is? To better understand this, let’s start with a couple of simple questions.

1. Have you ever read the perfect book? I don’t mean a good book, a great book, an amazing, interesting or enthralling book, I mean the perfect book!

Can you name it?

2. Do you own the perfect outfit? Dress, suit, jeans or skirt. Does this outfit always make you feel good? Is this outfit great for that occasion or is it in itself perfect?

Do you see where I am going with this?

“Perfect,” the way we see it (or think we see it) does not really exist. It is an illusion that we can spend hours, days or years trying to achieve… and it isn’t real. It is a bit like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

As a former photographer I have followed many a rainbow in the hope of finding this pot, seeing the exact point where the rainbow lands on the ground in a stunning golden glow. After far too many attempts, I now know this is not real.

2016-03-14-1457932943-9571411-rainbowme.jpg

If we continue to hold on to the illusion of “perfection,” we can spend a lifetime feeling like we have failed. So, why are we all striving to reach something that’s not real? Let’s understand it better.

What does perfect mean? What is its actual definition? Here are a few synonyms:
Ideal or great — you can do this. Complete — umm, so finish it. Accurate — check your facts. Many of the synonyms for perfect are achievable. You know you can do this, right? Great, accurate, complete? You would do this every day without even thinking about it.

If you take the word “perfect” out of being the driver of your work (I’m going to write the perfect blog) or the obstacle (but it will never be “perfect” and get published) that stops you, the possibilities are endless.

Without perfection, what is left? For many the answer is “self-doubt.” If the work is not perfect, then maybe it is not that great either, and then what will people think of me?

What we are doing here is debunking the myth of perfectionism, taking out the stress and fear, not lowering your standard of work. Self-doubt is perfectionism’s silent partner, the one we don’t really want to talk about. Judgement! We can say proudly “I am a perfectionist” but we would never exclaim proudly to have self-doubt or be afraid of being judged. We fear this makes us sound weak and small.

The problem is we are trying to please everyone. We want everyone to like us. We want everyone to think we are smart. And like finding the pot of gold, it will never happen. We just can’t please everyone and nor should we try. People are different and have different likes and dislikes and different tastes. That is all OK. Accept it.

Look at what you are wearing right now? Why did you choose that particular outfit? Because you thought everyone would like it? Did you dress for comfort? For appropriateness? Because you simply felt like wearing it? Do you think you are being judged for it? Maybe. Does it matter? No. Some people will like what you are wearing, some will not, and many will be indifferent. This is all OK.

Judgement is part of life and we don’t want to waste too much time worrying about what others think. Do things for yourself. Do them with honesty and integrity. If you do this you don’t need to doubt. Will there be mistakes? Yes, probably. This is OK too. Learn from them.

Perfect, perfectionism, perfectionist — these are all not real. Know this. Stop wasting your time.

Stop the stressing, stop chasing that pot of gold and just get on with it. Publish your blog, have your new clothes range in your favourite shop and make final decisions. Stop worrying and start doing.

Romi Grossberg is a writing therapist, holistic counsellor, facilitator of Writing from The Source workshops and author. ‘Are you a perfectionist?’ is an extract from her upcoming new book, titled ‘The 5-Minute Guide to Emotional Intelligence’ to be released in April 2016. For more information, go to www.romigrossberg.com

Source: Are You a Perfectionist? | HuffPost Life

‘The Stress-Free Way To Manage Your Day,’ Huffington Post

2016-07-12-1468294732-2455043-wotuneed.jpg

Break it down. Make it simple. Feel satisfied.

People often ask me how I manage to be so productive whilst maintaining a lifestyle that is enjoyable and stress free. I live in Thailand (yes by the beach) and am an author. Beautiful no doubt, but this doesn’t exactly pay for all of my lifestyle choices. So, I freelance as a writer of websites, a copy editor of books and blogs, I am a counsellor, writing mentor, writing therapist and workshop facilitator.

I have to travel to various locations to do re-cons for new websites and run my workshops in different places (including different islands). All of this means I have to juggle schedules, management, students, clients, travel and those who work on ‘Thai time’ (a bit like the Spanish ‘mañana, mañana’).

I just published a book. I also need to give a progress report on my next book in about six weeks. I have A LOT to do. That is just the basics. Every day there are follow up emails, Facebook and other social media around my published book that seem never ending. Yes there are days I wish I had a P.A.

I also want to maintain my lifestyle. I am trying out Tai Chi for the first time and have a two-hour class three times this week to fit in. I have a session this week on women’s sexual health and vitality (why not!) and I have a friend coming to visit with her daughter. Reading the above three paragraphs could definitely stress me out if I let it. I don’t.

I am organised. This keeps all stress at bay. Many people think that getting or being organised is time consuming and can be stressful alone. It doesn’t need to be at all. So here is how I do it. You can too!

Let’s start with a quick list of what you need.

They are all very cheap and easy things to have:

  1. A clean and empty desk/working space
  2. A lined note book
  3. Another note book – your ideas book
  4. A diary/calendar
  5. A small fit-in-your-daily-bag note pad (or phone with notes)
  6. That’s it. Let me explain.

I hope the clean desk is obvious. Messy desk, messy mind. Simple. The lined note bookis your daily ‘to do’ list. Depending on how busy you are, you can do this daily, every few days or each week. I do it daily. Every morning (or the night before) I write down what I need to do. This de-clutters my headspace and clears the mind of trying to remember everything.

If this is your first time then write down everything that needs to be done this week. Now on a separate page, write down what needs to be done today only. If your weekly list is long or busy, you will feel stressed out. Be realistic about what truly needs to be done today. Make the list doable! Simple tasks.

For example I would not put on my list ‘social media’ because that is stressful and could take all week (or year!). I would break it down to ‘link my amazon page to my LinkedIn page,’ ‘put photos from the book launch on my Facebook page,’ ‘send newsletter’ etc. Get the picture? They are doable and guaranteed to be ticked off that day and provide a great level of satisfaction. One small task at a time and my ‘social media’ will get done – without stress!

Don’t Forget To Tick

Each time you have finished a task, tick it off your list. Revel in the absolute satisfaction of penning that tick. Ooh it feels so good. It also stimulates you to tend to the next task.2016-07-12-1468294645-5581887-doabletickedlist.jpg

What About You?

Do I need to remind you to put something for you on your ‘to do’ list? Do you put tasks first and you last? If your answer is yes then make sure you put ‘go for a walk’, ‘have a coffee with a friend,’ ‘meditate’, whatever it is, on your list. Factor it in to your day. It should be in your diary AND your ‘to do’ list. There are 24 hours in a day – gift yourself some of those moments. Don’t let life pass by knowing you attended all your tasks but had no ‘you time.’

The other note book is more of an ideas book. This is for bigger projects or something you want to get around to, but just not this week (or month). For example, my next book started in my ideas book and wasn’t brought over to my daily ‘to do’ list until my social media felt under control. When it was brought over I again brought it in small tasks, ie: ‘research a specific topic’, ‘send one email’ etc. It still remains in my ideas book with scribbled notes and thoughts all over. This is the space to be messy if you need to. Ideas in your ideas book can be big but once they come over to your ‘to do’ list, they must be small, simple and achievable.

The diary/calendar is for deadlines and appointments. This serves as a reminder when writing your daily lists – check how much realistic time is available that day to tend to this list. It should be kept neat and organised so you can actually see at a glance what is there.

The small fit-in-your-bag note pad (mine is always a kitch cheap note pad) actually lives in your bag. That way you always have paper and pen if you have a thought or something you want to tend to later (yes phones do the same thing but I am old school). Don’t forget to transfer these to your ‘to do’ list if you need to.

Once you own all of these things (note books, diary etc), it is SIMPLE. Truly.

It will take you about 5 minutes a day to keep it clear and doable. Just 5 minutes. This morning I looked at my ‘to do’ list and it had gotten too big (and messy). It happens. It’s OK. I looked at my dairy to see what appointments I had today and how much time available. I opened a new page and wrote 12 things I wanted to do today. At least half will take me only a couple of minutes each (send a particular email for example). I feel completely confident that I can tick off my entire list today. No stress. Just sit at my clean desk with a cup of coffee, my ‘to do’ list and voi la.

Rules: Yes there are rules. Only one actually.

Turn your internet off whilst you are doing anything that doesn’t require it being on. It is amazing how much time we waste on Facebook, youtube or whatever your vices are. Open your email just to send an email. Open your Facebook only to post a message related to your ‘to do’ list. Then minimise it. Turn your sound OFF so you are not distracted by every ping. Or like I said, just close them.

The result?

You are organised, whipping through your ‘to do’ list and probably have time spare to do something you enjoy. So go and enjoy.

Happy stress-free day planning. I am off to Tai Chi.

Romi Grossberg is the author of ‘The 5-Minute Guide to Emotional Intelligence’. She also has a newly set up support group on Facebook (with the book title name) for those going through the book – ticked off the list just yesterday. For more information, go to www.romigrossberg.com

Huffington Post, 2016

Source: The Stress-Free Way To Manage Your Day | HuffPost

Pages

The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens

The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens



A guidebook and resource for teenagers, parents, teachers and counsellors and can be taught in schools and community groups.

T

HE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens is a guidebook that covers all of those topics we just never learnt in school. It has over twenty topics under the umbrella of emotional intelligence; learning how to understand ourselves better and the world around us. THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens guides students through important life skills, teaching coping strategies on various aspects of growing up through teenage years. 

Until now, I have taught THE KEY (1st Edition) myself as a 10-week program in 2017 and 2018 at Bialik College, the top school in Victoria Australia. This second edition: ‘THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens’ launched in 2019 includes more activities, writing exercises, re-cap sections, youtube videos and discussion points. 

My aim in doing so is to reach more teenagers by making it easily accessible and digestible to more students and more teachers. This second edition holds all of the necessary information to be taught without my physical presence. It includes numerous videos I have made to explain more tricky topics such as understanding anxiety, negative thoughts, three different types of calming breathing techniques and more.

There is something for everyone.

Whilst I am still available to teach the course myself or run workshops on specific topics, redesigning THE KEY helps me achieve my larger goal – to reach more young people and help them lead a more socially emotionally healthy life. My dream is to have it translated in to numerous languages and available worldwide.

The language is simple and the guidance is practical. For younger teens it is a great introduction to the new world of understanding emotions and a useful ‘go to’ manual for when things arise. For mid and older teens it can be like having a personal counsellor on hand with tips and tools for handling different emotions and situations.

If you are a teacher, parent, educator, teen counsellor, school psychologist or teenager – this book is for you.



“The Key engages students to better understand their thoughts, emotions, behaviours, actions, reactions and how they interact with the school, their friends and with their parents at home. Romi’s aim is to increase self-awareness and create behaviour change at home, at school and out in the world. Clearly the students changed from some negative thoughts to positive ones as well as treating their peers and parents with more gratitude. Romi has changed a number of students in a positive manner and I commend her on all that she has achieved.”

Ian PoyserAssistant Principal-Pastoral Care Head of Middle School, Bialik College.

“The Key is very readable. (Romi) Grossberg addresses her teenage audience in a language that is unpatronizing while presenting complex issues and concepts with exceptional clarity.

The Key never offers bland, “look on the bright side” advice. Grossberg delivers a series of common-sense self-care strategies in a clear and comforting manner designed to help put adolescent problems in perspective. Moreover, she provides her readers with the strategies for practical problem-solving and finding solutions to stressful situations. The author also gives teenagers terrific tips on becoming more balanced and goal-oriented. As the readers navigate the activities they can come to powerful and meaningful decisions and take greater control of their lives.”

Kevin MorleyAuthor, Oxford University Press Independent Education Consultant

“Today’s teens are anxious and stressed. The pressure to keep up – both in school and online – has led to a mounting mental health crisis in schools and universities worldwide. It’s clear we need to take a preventative approach, one that will help our students find healthy ways to cope. Social and emotional learning provides the framework to get us there, but finding ways to get students onboard can be tough.

The Key is full of creative resources and strategies to help teens take ownership over their mental and emotional health, preparing them for life both in school and beyond.”

Amy Lauren SmithConsultant and Education Editor



Below are fifteen videos matched to the topics in your book THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens. Just click on the numbered video when you come across ‘watch video’ in your book. Videos 6 to 15 are ‘locked’ due to privacy. Please register or sign-in to view them.

The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens

The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens



An interactive guidebook written for teenagers. A resource for parents, teachers and teen counsellors.

T

HE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens addresses many obstacles and difficulties adolescence face in emotional and mental health and provides them with practical and real-life steps toward greater health and confidence.

The Key engages teenagers using self enquiry and self awareness to better understand themselves, their thoughts, actions and reactions, giving them back a sense of self control. It offers practical guidance and strategies, putting seemingly complex issues in to perspective through learning, sharing, writing therapy, activities and fifteen videos.

With over 20 themes, The Key addresses topics such as anxiety and stress, negative thought patterns, exam preparation, controlled breathing, calming down, school, friendships, how to trust yourself, communicate effectively, understand sibling rivalry or a parents’ divorce and so much more.

The Key offers practical step-by-step guidance in how to lead a socially emotionally healthy life. In a world where mental health in adolescence is on the rise, this book aims to equip teenagers with the skills they need to thrive in school, in the home and in life.

If you are a teenager trying to understand yourself – your friendships, handle pressure, have good family relationships, deal with anxieties and get through school and life in a stress-free way, then this is for you.

If you are a parent wanting to assist, support and understand your teen better, then this book is for you.

If you are an educator, teen counsellor or school psychologist looking for a new resource full of activities, videos and practical explanations, then this book is for you.

If your school is interested in The Key, it can be taught in the classroom as a full course or as customised workshops by myself, a teacher or counsellor. Email: romigrossberg09@gmail.com



“The Key engages students to better understand their thoughts, emotions, behaviours, actions, reactions and how they interact with the school, their friends and with their parents at home. Romi’s aim is to increase self-awareness and create behaviour change at home, at school and out in the world. Clearly the students changed from some negative thoughts to positive ones as well as treating their peers and parents with more gratitude. Romi has changed a number of students in a positive manner and I commend her on all that she has achieved.”

Ian PoyserAssistant Principal-Pastoral Care Head of Middle School, Bialik College.

“The Key is very readable. (Romi) Grossberg addresses her teenage audience in a language that is unpatronizing while presenting complex issues and concepts with exceptional clarity.

The Key never offers bland, “look on the bright side” advice. Grossberg delivers a series of common-sense self-care strategies in a clear and comforting manner designed to help put adolescent problems in perspective. Moreover, she provides her readers with the strategies for practical problem-solving and finding solutions to stressful situations. The author also gives teenagers terrific tips on becoming more balanced and goal-oriented. As the readers navigate the activities they can come to powerful and meaningful decisions and take greater control of their lives.”

Kevin MorleyAuthor, Oxford University Press Independent Education Consultant

“Today’s teens are anxious and stressed. The pressure to keep up – both in school and online – has led to a mounting mental health crisis in schools and universities worldwide. It’s clear we need to take a preventative approach, one that will help our students find healthy ways to cope. Social and emotional learning provides the framework to get us there, but finding ways to get students onboard can be tough.

The Key is full of creative resources and strategies to help teens take ownership over their mental and emotional health, preparing them for life both in school and beyond.”

Amy Lauren SmithConsultant and Education Editor



Below are fifteen videos matched to the topics in your book THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens. Just click on the numbered video when you come across ‘watch video’ in your book. Videos 6 to 15 are ‘locked’ due to privacy. Please register or sign-in to view them.

You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



You have no access to this content

Please login or register to view this video.



The Key-JULY 2019

The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens



A guidebook and resource for teenagers, parents, teachers and counsellors and can be taught in schools and community groups.

T

HE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens is a guidebook that covers all of those topics we just never learnt in school. It has over twenty topics under the umbrella of emotional intelligence; learning how to understand ourselves better and the world around us. THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens guides students through important life skills, teaching coping strategies on various aspects of growing up through teenage years. 

Until now, I have taught THE KEY (1st Edition) myself as a 10-week program in 2017 and 2018 at Bialik College, the top school in Victoria Australia. This second edition: ‘THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens’ launched in 2019 includes more activities, writing exercises, re-cap sections, youtube videos and discussion points. 

My aim in doing so is to reach more teenagers by making it easily accessible and digestible to more students and more teachers. This second edition holds all of the necessary information to be taught without my physical presence. It includes numerous videos I have made to explain more tricky topics such as understanding anxiety, negative thoughts, three different types of calming breathing techniques and more.

There is something for everyone.

Whilst I am still available to teach the course myself or run workshops on specific topics, redesigning THE KEY helps me achieve my larger goal – to reach more young people and help them lead a more socially emotionally healthy life. My dream is to have it translated in to numerous languages and available worldwide.

The language is simple and the guidance is practical. For younger teens it is a great introduction to the new world of understanding emotions and a useful ‘go to’ manual for when things arise. For mid and older teens it can be like having a personal counsellor on hand with tips and tools for handling different emotions and situations.

If you are a teacher, parent, educator, teen counsellor, school psychologist or teenager – this book is for you.

THE KEY has been taught in workshop or full course form at:

Bialik College, Australia. 2017, 2018.

PanyaDee International School, Thailand. 2019.

THE KEY has been presented at:

The Cultures of Thinking Conference, Australia. 2019.

PHASE International Education Conference, Hong Kong. 2019.



“The Key engages students to better understand their thoughts, emotions, behaviours, actions, reactions and how they interact with the school, their friends and with their parents at home. Romi’s aim is to increase self-awareness and create behaviour change at home, at school and out in the world. Clearly the students changed from some negative thoughts to positive ones as well as treating their peers and parents with more gratitude. Romi has changed a number of students in a positive manner and I commend her on all that she has achieved.”

Ian PoyserAssistant Principal-Pastoral Care Head of Middle School, Bialik College.

“The Key is very readable. (Romi) Grossberg addresses her teenage audience in a language that is unpatronizing while presenting complex issues and concepts with exceptional clarity.

The Key never offers bland, “look on the bright side” advice. Grossberg delivers a series of common-sense self-care strategies in a clear and comforting manner designed to help put adolescent problems in perspective. Moreover, she provides her readers with the strategies for practical problem-solving and finding solutions to stressful situations. The author also gives teenagers terrific tips on becoming more balanced and goal-oriented. As the readers navigate the activities they can come to powerful and meaningful decisions and take greater control of their lives.”

Kevin MorleyAuthor, Oxford University Press Independent Education Consultant

“Today’s teens are anxious and stressed. The pressure to keep up – both in school and online – has led to a mounting mental health crisis in schools and universities worldwide. It’s clear we need to take a preventative approach, one that will help our students find healthy ways to cope. Social and emotional learning provides the framework to get us there, but finding ways to get students onboard can be tough.

The Key is full of creative resources and strategies to help teens take ownership over their mental and emotional health, preparing them for life both in school and beyond.”

Amy Lauren SmithConsultant and Education Editor



Below are fifteen YouTube videos matched to the topics in your book THE KEY, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens. Just click on the numbered video when you come across ‘watch video’ in your book. Videos 11 and 13 are ‘locked’ due to privacy. As the reader of THE KEY, you are invited to register and be able to view them.

 The Key – Video 01: Hello!

The Key – Video 02: Who am I and why I wrote the book

The Key – Video 03: Unlocked: What’s in the Curriculum

The Key – Video 04: What teenagers think

The Key – Video 05: Finding a Counsellor is like shopping for shoes

The Key – Video 06: Learning Belly Breaths

The Key – Video 07: Breathing with colours

The Key – Video 08: Mindfulness Meditation

The Key – Video 09: Let’s understand anxiety

The Key – Video 10: Understanding Negative Thoughts

You have no access to this content.

Please login or register to view this video.



The Key – Video 12: Tone of Voice

You have no access to this content.

Please login or register to view this video.



Inside Out Movie Clip Sadness Comforts Bing Bong

Inside Out – Sadness Saves Riley

Counselling

I am passionate about sharing my skills to help you reach your full potential.

I believe that everyone should seek counselling at some point in their lives. We all go to the dentist or car mechanic every year but when do we give ourselves the gift of an emotional check in?



My sessions are forward thinking to help you achieve your goals.

W e can work together on how to: quiet your mind, trust yourself, recognise your goals and strengths, communicate effectively with partners, children, parents and friends, break out of old patterns or negative thought behaviours, let go of old stories, understand and better cope with mental health, make decisions that are right for you, gain clarity, focus, calm and more.

My promise to you is that you will learn practical and effective skills, tools and techniques to bring in to your daily life immediately.

Holistic Counselling includes the ‘all of you’, recognising that:

  1. We are multi-faceted human beings and our emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health need to be in-line for us to function at our best.
  2. Our upbringing; our family, culture, society, religion and nationality all play a part in how we think, react and behave.

Let’s chat from the comfort of your home.

I offer 60-minute online counselling sessions. You can book one session or a block of three or five to start.

I work with Adults, couples and teenagers (12+).

University Qualifications:

Bachelor of Social Work (2006), Monash University, Australia

Bachelor of Social Science (1997), LaTrobe University, Australia

Other Qualifications:

Dealing with Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks’ Management, Drug & Alcohol Harm Minimisation, Suicide First Aid, International Public Health, Disaster Relief Management

Complete this form to get started.


This contact form is deactivated because you refused to accept Google reCaptcha service which is necessary to validate any messages sent by the form.


Your Privacy

No information here will be shared with any third party. If you are under 18 we will discuss getting your parent/carer’s permission before beginning our first session.

Cancellation Policy: Please cancel 24 hours before the session starting time. ‘No Show’ will incur 50% payment fee.



If you are visiting Thailand you can work with me face-to-face at The Sanctuary Thailand in Koh Phangan or simply stay in touch via my newsletter to see what country I am in.


What People Say



Kate, New Zealand


Marta, Italy


Nik, Australia


Tash, Australia

“I was worried my thoughts were crazy or silly but you made me feel normal and like I could cope with life again.”

AnnaUSA

“I love that you focused on the future not the past and then gave me useful tools to move forward in life. Thank you”

RobertFrance

“I enjoyed using writing in the session. I have never experienced something like this before. It was really challenging but helped me concentrate, focus and think clearly and importantly – it was fun too.”

NathanAustralia

“I’ve been going to counselors for my eating disorder for over ten years now and that was the best session I have ever had. That was the first time I wasn’t made to feel stupid and where I felt I was talking to someone who was my equal but with loads to teach and share with me. I now feel I have a new set of tools and tricks I can try that will be with me always. I feel empowered. Thank you.”

PanUK

“You have helped me far more than you could possibly imagine! You helped me integrate all the information, thoughts and feelings. You helped me develop an action plan with tools and writing that I could go home with to help me keep my new-found peace of mind. It really tied everything together for me. You gave me a good bag of gems to take home and play with. Thank you Romi for creating the space to let me be me and for listening without judgment, you made me feel safe and accepted for all that I am. Your insight is deeply appreciated.”

AngelAustralia

“I found Romi really easy to talk to and her style of counseling gentle yet effective. I like the way she makes you see the different points of the problem and shows you how simple sometimes the answers can be.

I felt the heaviness lifted by talking to her and found her very easy to connect and relate to.

I have cried and I laughed with her and I am very grateful for her kind words. Big thanks Romi!

JaanaU.K.

[av_section min_height='' min_height_px='500px' padding='default' shadow='no-border-styling' bottom_border='no-border-styling' bottom_border_diagonal_color='#333333' bottom_border_diagonal_direction='' bottom_border_style='' custom_margin='0px' custom_margin_sync='true' custom_arrow_bg='' id='' color='main_color' background='bg_color' custom_bg='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' attach='scroll' position='top left' repeat='no-repeat' video='' video_ratio='16:9' overlay_opacity='0.5' overlay_color='' overlay_pattern='' overlay_custom_pattern='' av_element_hidden_in_editor='0' av_uid='av-78m5r'] [av_hr class='invisible' height='30' shadow='no-shadow' position='center' custom_border='av-border-thin' custom_width='50px' custom_border_color='' custom_margin_top='30px' custom_margin_bottom='30px' icon_select='yes' custom_icon_color='' icon='ue808' font='entypo-fontello' av_uid='av-juiidacn' admin_preview_bg=''] [av_two_fifth first min_height='av-equal-height-column' vertical_alignment='av-align-middle' space='no_margin' margin='0px' margin_sync='true' row_boxshadow_color='' row_boxshadow_width='10' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='10px,20px,10px,20px' highlight_size='1.1' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' column_boxshadow_color='' column_boxshadow_width='10' background='bg_color' background_color='#734854' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-1cfq4v'] [av_textblock size='' font_color='custom' color='#ffffff' av-medium-font-size='' av-small-font-size='' av-mini-font-size='' av_uid='av-ju13mw37' admin_preview_bg='']

Get Tips, Bits and Info from Romi

[/av_textblock] [/av_two_fifth][av_three_fifth min_height='' vertical_alignment='av-align-top' space='' margin='0px' margin_sync='true' row_boxshadow_color='' row_boxshadow_width='10' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='10px,20px,10px,20px' highlight_size='1.1' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' column_boxshadow_color='' column_boxshadow_width='10' background='bg_color' background_color='rgba(169,165,165,0.8)' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-17pbvj'] [av_mailchimp list='b9c3bffd7f' double_opt_in='aviaTBdouble_opt_in' on_send='' sent='Thank you for subscribing to our newsletter!' link='manually,http://' color='' hide_labels='aviaTBhide_labels' av_uid='av-ju13lxiw'] [av_mailchimp_field id='0' type='text' check='is_email' options='' label='Email Address' width='element_two_third' av_uid='av-bd4lz' disabled=''] [av_mailchimp_field id='1' type='text' check='' options='' disabled='aviaTBaviaTBdisabled' label='First Name' width='' av_uid='av-y32lj'] [av_mailchimp_field id='3' type='text' check='' options='' disabled='aviaTBaviaTBdisabled' label='Country' width='' av_uid='av-jv41j'] [av_mailchimp_field id='4' type='text' check='' options='' disabled='aviaTBaviaTBdisabled' label='Source' width='' av_uid='av-hbb9b'] [av_mailchimp_field id='av-button' type='button' check='' options='' label='Subscribe' width='element_third' av_uid='av-7vhgn' disabled=''] [av_mailchimp_field id='2' type='text' check='' options='' disabled='aviaTBaviaTBdisabled' label='Last Name' width='' av_uid='av-t9mrr'] [/av_mailchimp] [/av_three_fifth][av_one_fifth first min_height='av-equal-height-column' vertical_alignment='av-align-middle' space='' custom_margin='aviaTBcustom_margin' margin='50px,20px' row_boxshadow_color='' row_boxshadow_width='10' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='0px' padding_sync='true' highlight_size='1.1' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' column_boxshadow_color='' column_boxshadow_width='10' background='bg_color' background_color='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-q4b0'] [/av_one_fifth][av_three_fifth min_height='' vertical_alignment='av-align-top' space='' margin='0px' margin_sync='true' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='0px' padding_sync='true' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' background='bg_color' background_color='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-q4b0'] [av_social_share title='' style='' buttons='' av_uid='av-jl2wtmlv' admin_preview_bg=''] [/av_three_fifth][av_one_fifth min_height='' vertical_alignment='av-align-top' space='' margin='0px' margin_sync='true' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='0px' padding_sync='true' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' background='bg_color' background_color='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-q4b0'] [/av_one_fifth][av_one_third first min_height='' vertical_alignment='av-align-top' space='' custom_margin='aviaTBcustom_margin' margin='30px,50px' row_boxshadow_color='' row_boxshadow_width='10' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='0px' padding_sync='true' highlight_size='1.1' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' column_boxshadow_color='' column_boxshadow_width='10' background='bg_color' background_color='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-2v44'] [/av_one_third][av_one_third min_height='' vertical_alignment='av-align-top' space='' margin='0px,20px' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='0px' padding_sync='true' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' background='bg_color' background_color='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-2v44'] [av_font_icon icon='ue8a7' font='romi-icons' style='' caption='' link='page,57' linktarget='' size='50px' position='center' animation='' color='#734854' av_uid='av-jlfgr0vs' admin_preview_bg=''][/av_font_icon] [/av_one_third][av_one_third min_height='' vertical_alignment='av-align-top' space='' margin='0px,20px' link='' linktarget='' link_hover='' padding='0px' padding_sync='true' border='' border_color='' radius='0px' radius_sync='true' background='bg_color' background_color='' background_gradient_color1='' background_gradient_color2='' background_gradient_direction='vertical' src='' attachment='' attachment_size='' background_position='top left' background_repeat='no-repeat' animation='' mobile_breaking='' mobile_display='' av_uid='av-2v44'] [av_textblock size='13' font_color='' color='' av-medium-font-size='' av-small-font-size='' av-mini-font-size='' av_uid='av-juy3anv9' admin_preview_bg='']

Privacy Policy   |   Testimonials

[/av_textblock] [/av_one_third][/av_section]

Events

Nothing Found

Sorry, no posts matched your criteria