‘3 Ways to Step into 2021, Without the Weight of 2020,’ Thrive Global.

2020 felt like a pretty horrible year to most people no doubt. Understandably, we just want to walk (or run!) away from it.

As much as we would like to switch off the memories, we can’t. Carrying the feelings, fear or anxiety of the past year into 2021 won’t benefit us as individuals, or as a collective.

So how can we prepare for 2021?

The reality of the world right now is that many of us will be spending what is normally a huge celebration – New Years Eve, alone or in small groups. Here are 3 things we can do on our own, with a friend or with a family member on new years eve itself, or during this week.

Grab a pen and 3 pieces of paper and let’s begin.

1. Saying Goodbye to 2020

Write down what you would like to shed. Think about your emotions, thoughts and feelings. We can’t get rid of what actually happened, the loss or the pandemic, but we can shed the anger, frustration, sadness or despair. Layer by layer, a little at a time, we can let go of the feelings associated. Write them down, find your words, express, process, let go.

With 2020’s pandemic spilling in to 2021, all we can control right now is us. Our thoughts, feelings, actions, reactions, behaviour and style of communication. Whatever did not serve you in 2020, now is the time to make peace with it. 2020 is over and it is time to let go.

Burn that letter as you release it from your mind, body and soul.

2. Find your Silver Linings.

Write down any silver linings you found this year. It may be hard for some people, particularly if you lost a loved one, a job or a home. But please try.

Did you learn something positive about yourself? Did you have more time to reflect? Find space to grow within? Time to start a new hobby? Become closer (even over phone/video) with a family member? Rekindle an old friendship? Have more time to spend with your children? Meet your neighbours? Realise you are more resilient than you thought? Or it could be just watching on tv as different cities publicly applauded the front line workers or sang from balconies to share love and compassion with each other.

I have clients who lost a family member but rekindled other family relationships in the grieving process, clients who were isolated and scared and found strength they didn’t know they had, and clients who through tragedy found clarity, as their sense of perspective shifted.

You can burn this one or choose to keep it.

3. Find Gratitude

Write a gratitude list. When the world seems dark and the days long, it is good to ask yourself What am I grateful for? and write your answer.

Let’s start 2021 on a positive note.

Why not stick this on your fridge, on your mirror or in your bag?

Let’s shed the negativity of 2020, find the moments that warmed our heart and remember what we are grateful for as we move into 2021 with an open heart and mind.


by Romi Grossberg.

Photo by Anthony R Turner, Art of Love Photography.


‘Top Tip to Manifesting a Magical 2017,’ Medium

For many, 2016 was a particularly tough year. Whether that includes you or not, I am going to share with you my top tip to manifesting a magical 2017.

This simple process will teach you how to let go of 2016 and open your heart and mind to the magic of 2017.

1. Letting Go and Conscious Decision-Making.

Sit in silence for a moment and recap your year. Grab some paper and a pen and write down anything that you want to let go of from 2016. It can be an emotion such as fear or anything that upset you, angered you, frustrated you, saddened you, anything that didn’t serve you and any old stories that you want to let go of.

Write them all down as a conscious choice. “I choose to let go of …”

Fold the paper and put it aside for a moment.

2. Conscious Manifestation.

What do you want for yourself for 2017? It can be anything. What do you dream of for yourself? Include your personal and professional life. Write it with intention. Write it with your heart wide open. Add what you want for your family and then what you want for the world.

Dream big! Be clear and specific. “For 2017, I want/I wish for/I will have/I will be.”

Fold the paper and put it aside for a moment.

3. Ceremony

Whatever kind of ceremony suites your personality and makes it feel that you are marking an important moment. The only thing it must include is a lighter or matches, the rest is up to you. Take a few deep breaths and pick up your first paper. Read it out loud. Know that you are making a conscious decision with all of your being to now let go of all that no longer serves you, all that hurt you or upset you in 2016. Make a prayer in whatever way that makes sense to you. Take a moment for yourself, and then burn it and know you are letting it go.

Now pick up your second paper and read it out loud. Read it with enthusiasm and desire for all that you wish to invite in to your life for 2017. Know that you are making a conscious decision with all of your being to now invite all that you wish for in 2017. Make a prayer in whatever way that makes sense to you. Take a moment for yourself, and then burn it and know you are sending it out in to the world to be answered.

Breathe. Relax. Smile. You are done.

Welcome 2017, I look forward to enjoying you to the fullest.

Bring it on!


Romi Grossberg is a counsellor, writing therapist and author of ‘The 5-Minute Guide to Emotional Intelligence’. For more information, go to

Source: Top Tip to Manifesting a Magical 2017 – romi grossberg – Medium