“Listen to resident counsellor Romi speak about our mental health and emotional well being in these uncertain times and how we can still move forward.” – Sanctuary Thailand.
It is very normal to be feeling pressure, stress, worry, grief or confusion at the moment. Here I talk about how we can move forward. Despite the loss of freedoms: loss of jobs, financial stability, mental health stability, physical contact, loss of routine, how we can still find peace, calm and balance.
“A fascinating conversation with Freedom Cole, Dr Patty Hlava and Romi Grossberg on the crucial topic of Mental Health – integrated approaches to healing, how different cultures approach mental health, the use and misuse of medication, and how best to navigate these troubling times with a modicum of sanity.” The Big Turtle Podcast.
A shaky start to the video podcast interview across the UK, U.S. and Asia with a little freeze and a little pause but well worth the watch.
Making Mental Health a Priority During Uncertain Times – Podcast interview on The Big Turtle Podcast, June 2020.
Hosted by: Vikram Zutshi and Lea Horvatic.
Guests: Romi Grossberg, Patty Hlava, Ph.D., and Freedom Cole.
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There is a growing mental health crisis with our teenagers and young people across the world. In Australia alone 1 in 4 adolescents will experience mental health problems this year and suicide is the most common cause of death for 15–24 year olds. The stats are alarming. One person is one too many.
In my experience with counselling teenagers I have had clients as young as 12 years old suffering from anxiety, clients at 13 believing that their parents divorce was their fault, at 16 not being able to look past a pimple or scar to see who they are as a person and at 17 wondering why they should get out of bed when “today is just going to be as bad as yesterday.” I have worked with adults who at 30 were still stuck in negative thought patterns, at 40 were still traumatised from being bullied at school, at 50 not feeling worthy of love and even at 70 still haunted by teenage family abuse.
None of us are ‘immune to life’ — to traumas, to ‘bad things happening’, to feeling like we have failed, to holding on to past hurts and to the complexities of navigating teenage friendships.
But this is not all doom and gloom.
Life doesn’t have to be this way. The problem is that quite often we don’t know what it is we can try. In those moments we have lost perspective. We have lost faith in the world and we have lost trust in ourselves.
My past clients spurred me to write my latest book ‘The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens.’ The most common sentence I was hearing from adults after working together was, “I wish I had learnt those things when I was younger,” and from that I set out to write. The frustration I felt at working with adults who had been carrying their life’s anxieties and traumas around for 10, 20, even 40 years was deeply saddening to me. Five-minutes is too long.
I believe the answer is in education. Not education that says ‘go to school’ but emotional intelligence education, social-emotional education, life education, education of the self, the heart and the soul.
A friend of mine, Kosal Khiev once wrote a poem ‘Moments In Between the Nights’ and that title alone springs to mind when I think about educating teens. It’s not in the ‘going to class,’ but the moments in between — the moments when no one is looking, when your mind suddenly turns, when doubt, fear, embarrassment, a memory, sadness, anxiety or negative thoughts kick in. It’s in those moments that we need to learn the self-awareness, the skills, tools and coping strategies to find our own balance again.
We can teach young people how to gain perspective, how to process their thoughts, emotions, behaviours and understand how and why they react to situations the way they do. We can teach them to understand and redefine terms such as success and failure. We can teach them self enquiry and self awareness, teach them how to better understand themselves, better understand friendships and the roles they play, that there is always someone they haven’t thought of they can talk to, something else they can try. We can teach them how to breathe — to calm down and to steady the mind. And to remind them that they are in control, that they have choice — choice in their actions, reactions, thoughts and behaviours. That there is ALWAYS something they can do. Life doesn’t happen TO us, we need to learn how to get back in the driver’s seat.
Through self-awareness we can create behaviour change but we cannot change what we are not aware of.
Yes we can even break out of negative thought patterns or better understand and cope with anxiety. There are simple steps that can be followed and in my book and videos I guide teens step-by-step in a very simple, practical and no bullshit way. I don’t brush over topics or say “Oh you’ll be okay.” he book gently holds their hand and takes them on a journey of self discovery where they learn to better understand themselves, find their strengths and resilience and get back in control of themselves.
In psychology terms, adolescence is the developmental stage of identity. Who am I? It is a powerful thing to begin to answer that question as a teen. How many adults can truly answer it?
* The Key, A Social Emotional Toolkit for Teens is not a substitute for a specialised mental health counsellor or diagnosed mental health conditions.
‘Teen Mental Health’ was posted in Medium in September 2019.
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So what exactly IS Holistic Counselling. What does it mean to say you are a holistic counsellor or that you want to go and see one?
Holistic Counselling looks at all of you. It recognises that people are not one-dimensional and that all the different parts that make up a person need to be factored in, to be able to fully understand the person. Holistic Counselling looks at mind, body and spirit.
When I say I am a holistic counsellor, I am saying that I will take in to account your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual thoughts, ideas, fears and concerns. I will acknowledge that upbringing, religion, society and culture can play a role and I will listen without judgment and help clear past blocks and help you to step forward with ease, flow and confidence.
“Given it’s currently National Youth Week, we are pleased to have the United Nations recognise this conference as supporting their International Year of Youth activities,” said CEO Australian Drug Foundation, John Rogerson.
I am very proud to be invited to speak at the ‘6th International Conference on Drugs & Young People: Making Connections’ being held in the Melbourne Convention Centre, May 2-4th 2011.
It is exciting and slightly terrifying to be speaking on such a grand stage to an enormous auditorium of people. I will speak on my experience of drug and alcohol and mental health working in Melbourne and my experience of drug and alcohol, mental health and the creative arts where I work in Phnom Penh Cambodia and am still currently based.
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I believe that everyone should seek counselling at some point in their lives. We all go to the dentist or car mechanic every year but when do we give ourselves the gift of an emotional check in?
My sessions are forward thinking to help you achieve your goals.
W e can work together on how to: quiet your mind, trust yourself, recognise your goals and strengths, communicate effectively with partners, children, parents and friends, break out of old patterns or negative thought behaviours, let go of old stories, understand and better cope with mental health, make decisions that are right for you, gain clarity, focus, calm and more.
My promise to you is that you will learn practical and effective skills, tools and techniques to bring in to your daily life immediately.
Holistic Counselling includes the ‘all of you’, recognising that:
We are multi-faceted human beings and our emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health need to be in-line for us to function at our best.
Our upbringing; our family, culture, society, religion and nationality all play a part in how we think, react and behave.
Let’s chat from the comfort of your home.
I offer 60-minute online counselling sessions. You can book one session or a block of three or five to start.
I work with Adults, couples and teenagers (12+).
Bachelor of Social Work (2006), Monash University, Australia
Bachelor of Social Science (1997), LaTrobe University, Australia
Dealing with Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks’ Management, Drug & Alcohol Harm Minimisation, Suicide First Aid, International Public Health, Disaster Relief Management
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